Updated: Apr 25, 2019
If you’re battling with that persistent voice that keeps telling you how things could go wrong, how you may not have worked it out right, then you’re dealing with self-doubt. Self-doubt can have a strong hold in your life, keeping you from trying new things and reaching your full potential. It holds you back from seizing your opportunities and it makes finishing things harder than they need to be.
If left unchecked self-doubt can wreak havoc on your confidence, making you feel powerless over your life. And although you can’t completely get rid of it overnight, you can do things to lessen the self-deprecating, destructive and debilitating thoughts that prevent you from living a fulfilled life.
✤ Positive Thoughts - Embrace The Good And The Bad
Welcome everything that comes into your life and accept it for what it is, whether good or bad. You can find something positive in almost all situations. By finding the good in the bad, you can stop feeling so afraid of failure because when you do fail, you can learn from it and turn your weaknesses into strength. Give yourself credit for small, daily accomplishments, even if you are not done. Did you work on cleaning up your closet but still have stacks of clothes to fold? Great, take a moment to focus on what you have done, don’t just wait until a project is finished.
✤ Get Out Of The Comparison Trap
Stop comparing yourself with others.
Just stop it!
Comparing yourself to others is one of the easiest ways to feel bad about yourself. You see what others are doing on social media, at work, and on television, and compare yourself unfavorably with these folks. Everyone seems more accomplished and better looking, has a better job title and a nicer home, is more physically fit and wealthier, or just seems to be having a better time in their lives.
These negative comparisons are the path to unhappiness. They make you feel jealous, inadequate, and inferior. They cause you to make poor decisions. They cause you to feel greater stress, anxiety, and depression. In short, making comparisons with others just sets you up for failure.
✤ Surround Yourself With Positive People
You are who you hang out with. If you hang out with negative, depressed type of people, then your subconscious mind will match their personality. You need people in your life who are encouraging, up-lifting and supportive – people who make you feel good about yourself. Positive people help your self confidence because they tend to see the potential in you – even when you might not see it in yourself.
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that. The really great make you feel that you too can become great" - Mark Twain
That’s my take on how to overcome self doubt and build confidence. What’s yours? Please leave a comment sharing your thoughts.